What is "True" Self-Confidence?
True Self-confidence is, without a doubt, one of the two most important traits that a child, any child, can have that will help them to avoid becoming the target of a bully and becoming a successful and prosperous adult. True Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem are both necessary for a child to be ready to face the world. Self-confidence and self-esteem are not one N the same. They are related but different. Self-confidence is based upon accomplishments, not compliments. Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself.
“True” self-confidence is confidence that is based upon accomplishments, not compliments. Riding a bicycle, driving a car, becoming part of an athletic team are all examples of accomplishments. It is anything that you have to practice to become better and better at. Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. It could be your appearance or your ability at being a good friend or how organized you are.
This article deals primarily with “True” Self-Confidence. There are two different types of self-confidence: “True” self-confidence and “False” self-confidence. One will help your child to avoid becoming a target of bullies. The other will almost assuredly make them one. So, it is critically important to make this one of the focal points in any anti-bullying effort on your part for your child’s benefit.
In my book, “My Do’s and Don’t’s for Bully-Proofing Your Child” I describe in detail how and what as the parent you need to know about helping your child to develop “True” Self-Confidence. I show you what “To Do” and what “Not To Do”. Unfortunately, this is not as intuitive as you might think. The advice that I offer is based upon 60+ years of common-sense experience dealing with bullying on my part.
So when you start to plan your Anti-Bullying efforts, or just to help them in their daily life, do not forget about the issue of “True” self-confidence. There is no other trait that can be substituted in its place. Some additional benefits of “True” self-confidence are; Being more attentive, Getting better grades in school, Performing better in athletics, Being more popular, A higher level of responsibility, More empathetic, Helping to manage their fears, Maintaining a positive mental attitude, Better able to withstand the challenges of peer pressure, and more pride in their physical appearance.