Students are 9 times more likely to die From Cyberbullying.

Cyberbullying is not only incredibly destructive. But were you aware that it can actually be deadly? Unfortunately, that has happened far too many times.

What is "True" Self-Confidence?

True Self-confidence is, without a doubt, one of the two most important traits that a child, any child, can have that will help them to avoid becoming the target of a bully and becoming a successful and prosperous adult. True Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem are both necessary for a child to be ready to face the world. Self-confidence and self-esteem are not one and the same. They are related but different. Self-confidence is based upon accomplishments, not compliments. Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself.

It is based Upon Accomplishments, Not Compliments.

“True” self-confidence is confidence that is based upon accomplishments, not compliments. Riding a bicycle, driving a car, becoming part of an athletic team are all examples of accomplishments. It is anything that you have to practice to become better and better at.  Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. It could be your appearance or your ability at being a good friend or how organized you are.

Two Types of Self-confidence.

This article deals primarily withTrue” Self-Confidence. There are two different types of self-confidence: “True” self-confidence and “False” self-confidence. One will help your child to avoid becoming a target of bullies. The other will almost assuredly make them one. So, it is critically important to make this one of the focal points in any anti-bullying effort on your part for your child’s benefit.

Do’s and Don’ts For Bully-Proofing Your Child.

In my book, “My Do’s and Don’t’s for Bully-Proofing Your Child” I describe in detail how and what as the parent you need to know about helping your child to develop “True” Self-Confidence. I show you what “To Do” and what “Not To Do”. Unfortunately, this is not as intuitive as you might think. The advice that I offer is based upon 60+ years of common-sense experience dealing with bullying on my part.

Start Planning

So when you start to plan your Anti-Bullying efforts, or just to help them in their daily life, do not forget about the issue of “True” self-confidence. There is no other trait that can be substituted in its place. Some additional benefits of “True” self-confidence are; Being more attentive, Getting better grades in school, Performing better in athletics, Being more popular, A higher level of responsibility, being more empathetic, Helping to manage their fears, Maintaining a positive mental attitude, Better able to withstand the challenges of peer pressure and more pride in their physical appearance. 

What Is The Purpose Of This Book?

I wrote this book as a “How to” for parents, teachers, or Guardians that are trying to teach children how to avoid becoming a target for bullies.  It teaches you what you “Should do” and what you “Should NOT do” when you try to help a child to learn how to avoid becoming the target of bullies. Bully Proofing any child should be a top priority for all adults.     

How would you handle these issues?

  1. Are you aware that a child’s attitude toward animals could be a sign of a developing Bully?
  2. Are you aware of how to recognize emotional pain if your child is being bullied?
  3. Do you know how to teach your child verbal Judo to defend themselves against a bully?
  4. What is an Upstander, and why is this important?

Students are 9 times more likely to die From Cyberbullying.

The following article is a true story that vividly points out the effects of cyberbullying and about what happened to a 12-year-old New Jersey girl who became the target of a group of other girls.

She hung herself after being taunted and cyberbullied on Snap Chat in 2017. As the story goes, her mother had complained to her daughter’s school numerous times. All to no avail. The parents filed suit against the school after their child killed herself claiming wrongful death. As much as I might understand why they took this action, I have to say that I do not think they will probably win this fight. Her parents claim that they have proof of more than a dozen instances of Cyberbullying.

This is a perfect example of the parents expecting someone else to care for their child as much as they did. They did the right thing when they made the school aware of what was going on. They should have been concentrating on how to prevent cyberbullying of their daughter. They just did not go far enough. The parents do share some of the blame for what happened for not doing more.

Folks, if that had been my child the school board would have been my next stop. If it looked like they still were not taking me seriously. Then it would be time to take more dramatic action. Your child’s welfare is more your responsibility than anyone else’s. If the school board still did not take immediate action I would have taken my case to the state Education Board.

If this did not get any attention I would have had no hesitation what so ever about taking it to the news media. You CAN NOT just make a complaint to the school and then hope they will do something about it.

What Are the 6 Types Of Bullying

What Are the 6 Types Of Bullying.
The book “Bully Proofing Your Child” is where I describe the different types of Bullying of which there are six. 

They are:
1) Physical
2) Verbal
3) Indirect
4) Social alienationBully proof book
5) Intimidation
6) Cyberbullying

Physical is the one that most people think about when they hear the word Bullying. It is the easiest form of bullying to recognize. It covers shoving, poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching, kicking, beating, stabbing, tripping, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping, pinching and more. Any type of physical touching that is meant to cause another person to fear for their safety. Sexual assault is also included in this category.

It is most likely to occur on the way to school or when your child is headed home after the school day is over. This also happens on a school bus far more than you might realize.

Since boys tend to be far more aggressive than girls. They are more likely to be involved in physical bullying. Girls on the other hand are more likely to use something like social alienation, which I also describe in detail in the book.