Is ADHD a Mental Illness?
How do you get diagnosed with ADHD?
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is diagnosed in children and adolescents by a clinical interview with a child mental health professional who is trained to evaluate and diagnose
Does your child have ADHD? Is your child a bully or a victim? Yes, they can be either one or both. This presents a real quandary for parents. On one hand, your child is a bully. On the other, they ARE a victim. No loving parent ever wants their child to be harmed, injured, or killed as a result of bullying. No responsible parent ever wants their child to be the reason another child was victimized.
You can’t begin to imagine the confusion being a victim can cause in your child’s mind. On the other hand, being the bully can be just as devastating to the bully. Either one can be the source of incredible bewilderment for you as their parent. You are not quite sure which direction to go. Hopefully, I can help a little bit with this.
ADHD is considered to be a disability by the Americans with Disabilities Act. It is also very common for people with ADHD to suffer from anxiety.
The Three Types of ADHD
No child should have to go through the school day feeling scared, embarrassed, or ashamed. But this does happen to thousands of kids every day in this country. Unfortunately, there are very few teachers, admin, or staff that are knowledgeable enough to know what to look for. So, it is up to you to help your child. Here are some of the things that you need to be aware of. There are three distinct types of ADHD.
1) Predominately Inattentive.
a. Having difficulty staying on track and following through. Starts a project and then quickly losses focus or gets sidetracked.
b. Difficulty paying attention. Has trouble following instructions or keeping schoolwork organized.
c. Appears not to listen when spoken to. His/her mind seems to be elsewhere.
d. Often forgetful or easily distractible. Constantly forget where he lays things down.
a. Fidgets or has difficulty remaining seated: Do teachers complain that your child leaves his/her seat or moves around too much in class? Does it seem like your child is unable to be still for an extended period of time?
b. Always “on the go”: your child cannot seem to play quietly or participate in social activities.
c. Talks excessively: Blurts out answers to questions or has difficulty taking turns: This can be as obvious as completing other people’s sentences or not being able to wait in line.
3) Combined (inattentive/hyperactive-impulsive)
a. Does your child show symptoms of being both inattentive and hyperactive/impulsive behaviors?
Normal School Day
So now that you know what to look for. Lets discuss some of the things that can happen during a normal school day. The things that can happen to a child with ADHD are virtually the same as most any child.
So keep these items in mind:
- Believe what they tell you when it comes to their being bullied. Children are far more aware of what is going on than teachers.
- In fact, only about 25% of teachers have any idea that
- Bullying is occurring even when they see it.
- Talk to them about the bullying. Let them know, with your words and actions, that the situation is not hopeless and help is available.
- Try to get as much information about the bullying as you can. Try to determine if you can if they are doing anything that might be contributing to their being bullied.
- But DO NOT accuse them of wrong doing.
- The worst thing you can do is to tell them to “Just ignore it.” This is a signal to a bully to just push harder. This is where teaching them verbal Judo can come in handy. I teach this in my book which is available on this website.
- Teach them to hang out with a friend that would stand up for them if they are attacked. The number one thing a bully does not want is to have to confront two kids at the same time.
- Try to teach them that the worst thing they can do is to get into a physical altercation with the bully. The bully is usually much bigger than they are. The number one thing that you can do to help them is to help them develop “True” self-confidence. Bully’s do not like having to face a confident child.
- Teach your child how to be assertive without being aggressive or threatening.
- Teach your child not to over react. This can be particularly difficult with a child who has ADHD.
- Work with Teachers, admin, and staff to make sure they are well informed and to take action when they see any type of bullying involving your child occurring.
- If your child is physically attacked or if there are threats of physical violence do not hesitate to take action by going to the principal or the police or both. If this does not work then by all means go to the district admin about it. Then to the state Bd. Education. As a last resort, go to your local news media. The absolute worst thing you can do is NOTHING. Just keep in mind who you are doing this for.