Being Bullied for Being Poor
I do not think that it is any big secret that those of us who are economically disadvantaged can suffer from feelings of worthlessness and substantially higher rates of dropouts.
Socioeconomic and immigrant status also play a part in bullying, according to the HBSC data on children from Europe and North America. In fact, in these regions, socioeconomic status – based on parents’ wealth, occupation and education level – is the most likely predictor of bullying in school: two out of five poor youth are negatively impacted. This compares to one-quarter of teens from wealthier families.
Being poor is associated with a low social status, and bullying is all about picking on others you perceive as having a low social status. So kids living in poverty or those who are less well-off than their peers can find themselves the target of bullying. Their lack of resources may also set them apart from peers because their clothing is less fashionable, and because they have no money to go out on the weekends.
Family issues such as coming from a single parent household. This is a particularly urgent issue in the black community because of the 74% rate of fatherless families. Having a parent who is incarcerated or one who is uninvolved in the family or coming from a foster care situation can also become the subject of a bullies taunting. Bullies tend to attack those areas where they know it hurts the most, and so kids from these situations tend to be taunted about their predicament even though the kids do not have any way to change the situation.
Ways to help yourself
You might also talk to your mom about the way you feel about your clothes. You could explain that you understand the importance of being frugal when you shop and suggest some inexpensive alternatives to the stores that she takes you. There might be some other resale or thrift stores in your area which offer clothes that are more suited to your tastes at a similar price.
There are many ways to try to help yourself. Try to join one of the school club that has the kind of activities that you are interested in. It could be an athletic team or an academic club like the debate team or some other thing that you find interesting. You could volunteer at a local charity to help those that are even less fortunate than yourself. That is not a place that you are likely to be made fun of or bullied. In fact, I am quite sure they would welcome any help that you could offer. I know from personal experience that the feelings you garner are worth more than any amount of money. You might actually find a friend or two that would accept you for just exactly who and what you are. That is the kind of friend everyone should have at least one of.
There are so many benefits to having this kind of friend. Here are just a few of them.
They could be someone that you trust enough to tell your most important thoughts to.
They might be able to offer you some good advice in a time of crisis.
They could offer to help you make a decision that is really important to you.
You could discuss with them what your life goals are.
They could help to reinforce good decisions that you have already made but are still uncomfortable with.
There is one other thing that you can do to help yourself and it does not cost anything. You could work on your sense of “True” self-confidence. This is a trait that will help you to succeed for the rest of your life. It comes from accomplishments, not compliments. The earlier you start working on this the better. It can help you to do better in school. It can help you to have the confidence to stand up to a bully. There are too many benefits for me to list them all. It just depends upon how hard you are willing to work on it. But the most important thing it can help you with is to help yourself to no longer be poor. In fact I wrote a book about it, named My DO’s And DONT’s for BULLY-PROOFING your CHILD. You can find a free version of it online. It costs you absolutely nothing. That URL is https://bullyingdosanddonts.com/ebook/ .